Love is something everyone desires. Love can be such a beautiful thing, yet such an ugly disaster as well. Love is a sensation, just like heat or cold. Love can leave you smiling for no reason, or it can leave you cold, lost, and broken. Love can be amazing, but it can also be the worst feeling in the world.
As much as how love makes you feel new and complete, it can also make you feel empty and a mess just as quickly.
Eight people out of ten used to believe that if you gave your all to someone and remained faithful that they would do the same. For some reason, when someone knows that you truly, irrevocably love them, it makes them take you for granted.
It’s all true if you’re dating the wrong one.
Your relationship should erase your tears, not your smile. True love doesn’t hurt, it heals. It brings happiness to your life. It empowers you to become the best version of yourself.
As I was preparing this article, I luckily met one of my High School friends and I had to ask what is her thought about love (the conversation was really awkward) but this is what she has to say;
I used to believe love was real, but now honestly just don’t know. This new generation of love is making me sick because it has its own definition of loyalty and everything. How can someone love you and all of a sudden those feelings just go? No explanation, no warning, can love just disappear? How does one know when they are in love anyways? Is there some kind of sign that God gives us?
I guess it’s just one of those words that our heart is just supposed to have faith and trust. But why does love makes people do stupid things? They enter your life, they treat you bad, cheat yet you still love them? — Bibz
However, love causes us the most pain once we lose it. This is when our partner gives up and no longer wishes to continue living with us. This is especially harrowing when we have not yet given up when we are still inspired to celebrate this love, but that one person we should be celebrating this feeling with is no longer there.
Trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work:
You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be.
Sometimes the person wants most is the person you are best without. You have to understand some things are meant to happen but not meant to be. Some things are meant to come into your life but not meant to stay.
Don’t lose yourself trying to fix something that’s meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who is not ready to give it to you. And you might not understand why now, but I promise you — your future will always bring an understanding of why things didn’t work out. Trust me.
Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you. Some chapters were meant to close without closure. If you will keep trying to fix what’s already broken — you would go crazy.
Here is some food for thought:
Though life may not be going the way you want it to go. Although things aren’t how you wish they could be. You might be sad, overwhelmed, or holding on to a string but you have to breathe. Life will not always be what you want but it is always teaching and preparing you for everything you will need to obtain everything you want and be able to go handle it once you get it.
Too often we feel “why me” when we should be saying “try me, I’m ready to learn and grow”. When we face our problems head-on and do what needs to be done, life flows a lot more smoothly. Thank God for everything, because we have grown to be all that we are and know from all the pain, anger, and tears that helped us to grow.
Trust your process, every step of the way. Ask yourself, what is the lesson I am to learn?. When you lose someone say thank you for protecting me or thank you for giving me new wisdom and strength.
To some people, love is pain and the lack of pain that remains deep in the veins because when someone you love hurts you, that pain never truly goes away. You laugh and smile because they are still there day after day but deep down when they hurt and disappoint you again, that same pain from before comes back and is just added to the new pain.
Love is the scars that are invisibly engraved in their hearts, love is the wisdom that they store, love is the pain that you can sometimes hear in their voice, love is the truth hidden in their eyes. Love is a mark that is hidden from the blind eye but felt so strongly, it completely ends up changing a person over time.
You can give someone the world, and not have a place in it. Sometimes it takes losing what you settling for to remind you what you deserve. Something that can give so much happiness can also take it all away in a few moments. The same thing that hurt you can also heal you. Love is a drug, that heals and also can destroy.
In fact, it’s important to consider the very real possibility that getting rejected may have made your future life better. How? Because you become mature enough and have gained wisdom and strength through all you went through.
Never be afraid to love again, just never rush it. Wait until you are really ready to be in a relationship. Love is such a beautiful thing when you find someone who knows what true love is and is ready to spend their life with you.
Don’t change yourself just so that you won’t be alone. Don’t change so that someone will love you. It’s an important message, and one that most of us need to hear at some point in our lives. Let them love you for you.
You don’t have to lose the love for yourself. Because you can never love right or even feel loved right if you don’t have love for yourself.
Self-love is something to begin with.